Friday, November 05, 2010

It's a good things she's cute...


...because she has kept David and I up for most of the night two out of the last three nights (and the one in between? she slept through the night - how does that work?!?)! Bah! We need sleep baby girl! We've tried the whole "cry it out" thing, but to no avail (we wait, she stands up in her crib and starts screaming, becoming progressively louder the longer we wait, which ultimately results in me having to spend even more time calming her back down). If anyone has any other suggestions, we're open to them!

4 comments:

J-Funk said...

Oh you poor thing!! I totally feel for you. We went through this at 4 months and it launched us straight into sleep training before we even knew what we were doing (we ended up hiring someone to help us out but the book 'Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child' and the new Ferber book are also really great).

The 'cry it out' method is tougher when they are this old because they can cry LOUD and are all over their crib - but I think it can still be really effective (one of my coworkers did it at 13 months and it worked great). The key is to NOT GO IN THE ROOM EVER, even if it means letting them cry for 2 hours (which we did). Buy a video monitor, then you won't worry. Also make sure you put her to bed early so she's not TOTALLY EXHAUSTED when she goes to sleep (that makes them wake up more). And if she gets really loud for a while, that's normal (she's used to you giving in when she does that so of course she'll try that first).

The idea is that when they are left to their own devices they will eventually learn how to fall asleep by themselves. Then, after only a few nights (seriously, it took 3 nights for us), they will fall asleep on their own if they are tired. This is a good thing for your kid to know how to do throughout their life so it is well worth suffering for 3 nights or so (it can take a few weeks, worst case scenario).

Of course sleep training is super controversial and I understand if you're not into it - the book 'Healthy sleep habits' explains a number of alternative solutions that are also really helpful (although he makes a good argument that crying it out is the most helpful).

GOOD LUCK!! Sleep training was the single most helpful thing I have done as a parent. Layla sleeps 12 hours straight through the night and has since 4 months (when she's not sick).

Redevetter said...

Everything that J-funk said especially the part about being tough and not going into the room. Also, the part about not putting her down when she is already over tired. I think that one was the biggest things for us. We knew if we got T to bed too late we would all suffer (and that did mean a 6:30 bedtime for us for a while). Make sure you have a consistent bedtime routine, and lastly just hang in there and work through it. With all the issues we've dealt with, I'm really not sure if what we did really worked, or if the situation just worked its self out on its own.

Jenni said...

Hey girl! First of all, don't feel alone in this. I totally thought when we were going through it that everyone else's kids were born great sleepers. It wasn't that I started asking questions, that I learned that most kiddos go through some sleep struggles! Here were the things that I think were key for us. As others have said, make sure she is not overtired at bedtime. We also had a 6:30 bedtime for a while, which stunk if Clay worked late and would't even get to see him at night. But, we were able to push that back a bit once he got in a routine. I was a big time wimp and could not follow through with the never go in his room part. I followed a similar method, but where you stay in his (her) room while they figure out how to put themselves to sleep. Sounds weird, but I felt better being able to be there for him and occasionally reminding him it was "night night time and mommy and daddy love you" I can give you more details if you are interested. Oh, and we did it somewhere in the 9-10 month range...GOOD LUCK!!

MJ said...

Thanks for all of the help and encouragement ladies! We picked up some books and are trying to change things up a bit - especially the time we put her down - "overtired" thing may be critical for us! I'll keep you all posted on what works! ;)